How to Deal with Public Shame

Public shame is sadly a real thing. It is something that is so easy to do, and sometimes it is done unintentionally. A lot of times, however, it is something people use to cover up something that they don’t want to see, hear, or believe because it will hurt their pride or beliefs. Have you ever been bullied before? Bullying seems to be raiding through schools, deteriorating young people’s minds, and lowering their self-esteem to dangerous levels. Have you ever been ridiculed for what you believe in? How did you handle yourself? Was it difficult to stand your ground in who you are and what you believe in, or did you give in to the potential shame/discomfort that you may have felt? There are so many ways to attack a person and bring shame upon them; there are also ways to create a perception of someone and their situation and bring it to other’s attention without providing the reality and truth in its fullness. However, if we were put into such a situation, how would we deal with it?

I have had the privilege of dealing with public shame and being hurt by many people. Hold up. “What did she just say”, you may ask? Did she just say privilege? Yes, I sure did! The way that I look at it is this: being put to shame isn’t always a bad thing. It’s more of an opportunity to fine tune your beliefs, grow and mature, and be true to what God has called you to be. If I am being pressed, I should consider it joy because I know Who is on my side and Who will stick up for me. I will have the knowledge of what God says and promises, and I won’t have to stop for a minute to believe what people say. I will need to have the understanding that people will always be capable of hurting, shaming, and putting me down, but my God is there to protect, honor, and bring me to my fullest potential. And guess what. He does the same for you too.

Now, I say all of this and you’re probably like, “Yeah, well that is all easier said than done.” You’re right! When you’re in the moment, it’s not so easy to be like, “Okay, God. This is awesome, I’m going to just keep walking forward and count this as joy. Because what this person said about me publicly or what this person did to hurt me isn’t going to affect me at all. Life is great, and I know what You say, so that’s all that matters.” That’s definitely not reality. When we are hurt or shamed, we review the situation over and over in our head, and the hurtful words are repeated and become ingrained into our mind. Sometimes we even believe what people are saying but we would never admit to it. In contrast, we may never believe what people say about us, thus creating a defense wall. The enemy is very smart in using different mind tricks to get us to give in to the pressures of the outside world. We become so overcome by what people think and say about us, that we forget who we are and what we stand for. It’s not easy standing out and being different. It’s extremely hard, but it’s extremely rewarding.

In my past experiences, when I was hurt or shamed by others, I felt the need to put up a defense wall and explain my reasoning. Do you think this would be a good way to handle things? Think about it. When you get into a heated discussion or argument with someone, do you not feel the need to defend yourself by explaining the “whys” and “hows” of things in order to help the other person understand? It seems like a logical explanation to me! Another response that people use when they are hurt or shamed by others is to just avoid the situation and not make an appearance or voice. They could remain silent and choose not to speak for themselves at all and just let people think what they want to think about them. Adam and Eve were the first to use this kind of response in the garden. When their eyes were opened to their sin, they felt the shame and became afraid. Therefore, they tried to hide from God and later place the blame and accusations on one another and satan himself (Gen. 3:7-13).

So the question is … What is the right response behavior to have when you are being attacked by shame, bullying, verbal abuse, etc.? Well, I can tell you that I certainly do not know all of the answers, but I can say that there is a time for everything as recorded in Ecclesiastes 3. In whatever situations we may be in, it is important to have the proper discernment and wisdom to know what to do. We often speak or act in haste without thinking and then later regret our actions. God wants us to think before we act or speak (Ecc. 5:2, Pr. 13:16). Sometimes there is a time to be silent, sometimes there is a time to speak. Other times there is a time to go directly to a person to speak about offenses (Matt. 18), and there are times where you may need to be vulnerable for truth to be exposed. Whatever the case may be, seek to strengthen your wisdom and discernment, because those traits are very important to have and use for the glory of God. Don’t ever make a decision based upon your flesh. Always pray and tune in to the spirit. Remember that everything happens for a reason. They are not always comfortable reasons. Our job is to stay obedient, follow His path, and stay humble. Next time you are being shamed or put down for something, stop and think about the situation. Be sensitive to the example that you’re setting for those around you.

F.A.I.T.H.

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F ocus

A udit

I nternalize

T rust

H ope

 

Faith is a common subject that people teach. It’s a common word that we hear in a sermon or that we read throughout the Bible. However, in my opinion, I don’t think it’s a common thing that is practiced enough. I also believe that people have different definitions of faith. If I type into Google what the definition of faith is, it says that it’s the “complete trust or confidence in someone or something.” If I look up the definition in the Bible it says, “Trusting is being confident of what we hope for, convinced about things we do not see” (Complete Jewish Bible). As we can gather, these are similar definitions, but the Bible gives much more insight into what it actually is and how we can walk it out. My friends, don’t rely on search engines such as Google, and don’t put all of your confidence in how other people or places define things. Put your complete trust and confidence in what the Bible says and how IT defines things. The Word of God should be your only reliable source to finding the gateway of where the Father truly desires you to be. How do you walk out true faith? In what ways or steps should you take to gain personal, emotional, or spiritual freedom? How can faith unlock the keys to the Kingdom?

As you can see in the title, I used the word “faith” as an acronym. Let’s zoom in on the word “focus”. What does focus have to do with the word “faith”? I believe that in order to understand what faith means and how to walk it out, you first need to shift your focus and make sure it’s zoomed in towards the correct focal point. In other words, know the ultimate picture that you’re achieving to capture, and make sure there are no obstacles in the way so that the viewer doesn’t lose focus of your picture. What should the picture or vision be? The ultimate vision is up to God. Whatever His big plan is for your life, your job is to obtain that vision, maintaining focus, so that your needs can and will be met, and so that you can carry out that vision to ultimately bring glory to God. If you are constantly looking for provision or are in a state of worry, constantly being distracted, then you’ve lost the vision! There are so many instances in life where we get easily distracted from God’s plan where worry and doubt begin to creep in. We become overwhelmed by the stress, hurt and pain of this life, being swallowed up in a pit of dust that just gets thrown and tossed around in the wind. The enemy easily shifts our focus to a state of distraction, which brings us to focusing on his vision which is of strife, hardship and trial. Colossians 3:2 states, “Focus your minds on the things above, not on the things here on earth” (CJB). I’m not saying that this is an easy task. It is by no means easy, but it is possible. It’s important to be sensitive and aware of where your mind wanders to and what you allow it to zoom in on. So, what is your focal point today? What or whom is your focus on right now in your life?

After you find and understand what your focus is, then you can begin to audit. Audit what? You can audit the way you think, the way you act, the way you perceive things, the way you treat other people … you can and should essentially audit yourself as a whole. Get rid of the old, selfish focal points, and put on the new and improved lenses! Try to put yourself and your life in a position of how God might view it. Would He be pleased? Compare your life and how you live to how God says you should live and act. Does it mirror that image? Sometimes we get to a place in life where we feel so comfortable and we don’t want to put in the effort to change or don’t feel the necessity to do things different. This is so selfish of us! Comfortability tends to rule out the obvious necessity of change that most of the time we aren’t willing make. How can we have the faith to move mountains if we have giant boulders in the way of us reaching that blessing and fulfillment?

After you search out and audit those things in your life that may be holding you back from reaching your full potential and having fearless faith, then you can start to internalize things from a Godly perspective. You can begin to seek out the right motives, understand the right beliefs, set standards and goals for yourself. You can begin to see and believe things the way God does. You can begin to react out of the Spirit rather than from the flesh. In addition, you can start to understand that in order to have freedom, there must come a price. Freedom isn’t free. We are spiritually free and forgiven because there was a PRICE that was paid (the death of Yeshua). We live in a free country because of the LIVES that were given up so that we could have and experience freedom. Sometimes God calls us to walk or live in a foreign land. This could mean that certain things or experiences that happen to us don’t make sense in the physical realm. For example, we can walk a Godly walk and follow His commandments, yet He allows bad things to happen to us and we just don’t understand. Maybe He’s called you to do something and you don’t know why. It’s all foreign to you; it doesn’t make sense. Are you willing to go that route to receive God’s promises? Are you willing to give up what you can see, feel and touch in the physical so that you can experience what God has already predestined for you?

After you audit and internalize, you can begin to restore lost trust and hope. It’s so easy to lose trust in someone; sometimes it’s even easier to lose trust in God because we cannot see Him. It’s even EASIER to lose trust and hope when we go through trials and hardships. It’s an easy pit to fall into when we begin to give into our flesh of thinking, speaking and acting negative as if God isn’t bigger than our problems that we’re facing. My friends, we have to be at a point where we are willing to lose our life in order to gain it. If we want to experience freedom, we have to have faith! Faith isn’t something we can see. The Bible clearly states that, along with many different examples of people who made a tremendous impact just because of their faith (Hebrews 11). Putting your trust in something is not an easy task; but it’s doable and is proven to be very beneficial to you as a person and for your spiritual growth as well. Using the faith that can move mountains will allow you access to the Kingdom of God. The blessing and fulfillment will come and His Kingdom will be glorified. Having faith actually requires you to be selfless, lay down your pride, and surrender. You will be immensely blessed if you pay whatever price is needed and trust that God already has it taken care of. Like Nick Vujicic reminds the people of God, “Don’t let your brokenness define your future.” You may feel like you’re in a bind, you can’t hold on any longer, or you can’t bear the heaviness anymore. Well, guess what? You don’t have to! God is there to carry all of your heavy burdens and He is there to walk with you every step of the way. You only need to trust that His way is higher and His plan is greater. You may not be able to see it right now, but He promises to meet all of your needs (Phil. 4:19). If you want to experience freedom from your bondage today, then I encourage you to:

 

F ocus on the things above, and change your mindset, creating a new focal point.

A udit your life, fixing the way that you think, act and speak.

I nternalize yourself in a way that you never have before. Create goals and motives to better yourself.

T rust that God is in control. Create a new, deeper foundation of trust in your life.

H ope in what you cannot see. Don’t let go of hope just because you cannot see the light at the end of the tunnel. God IS hope; He CAN bring you through the seemingly endless trials.

 

 

 

Boast Your Weakness

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          What do you think of when you hear the word “weakness”? Sometimes when I hear or think about weakness it makes me cringe. I don’t like to think of myself as weak! Who does? Who likes to ponder on their weakness or their failures? Why would we even do that, and is there a benefit in doing so? And yet, the Bible has bizarre answers to these questions. Paul writes that we are to boast about our weaknesses (2 Cor. 11:30) Friends, I’m here to tell you that there is much to gain from our weaknesses. In fact, I would venture to say that if we recognize and allow God to use them, our weaknesses will be transformed into strengths. Let’s look at this a bit closer.
          First of all, what makes us weak? Were we born to be weak? Of course not! The world was created into perfection until the Fall of man. The corruption came forth from the adversary, which deformed man into being weak. God did not intend for us to be weak. Weaknesses were a result of the Fall, but God can still turn this curse into a blessing. We can now consider what Paul was writing. What does it mean to “boast” about a weakness? Boasting is a recognition and lifting up of one’s own actions, achievements, abilities, etc.. When someone boasts about themselves or something related to themselves, they usually seek other’s recognition. Perhaps what Paul meant was that we need to seek to have our weaknesses recognized, both by ourselves and others. It’s like coming into a doctor’s office and eagerly exposing all the ailments. If we hide or deny that something is wrong, how can we expect the doctor to help? When weaknesses are exposed, it brings a person to a state of surrender and humility. That first step allows us to acknowlege that we need to depend on something or someone higher than ourselves. Once we expose our weaknesses into a state of vulnerability, that allows God to work. He can use this to establish the relationship that was ordained to begin with. The Lord proclaimed to Paul that, “My power is brought to perfection in weakness,” and Paul states that this is the reason why he’s happy to boast about his weaknesses. It takes a lot of humility, but when we are weak, He is strong. No longer do we protect our flaws, but we open them up before our loving Father. When we can get to that point, what do you think God will do with us? He already says what He will do! He says that through our weakness He is strong. He uses our weaknesses for His glory as He transforms it into something good. The chains fall, and He gives us new strength.
Our weaknesses become our strengths. This is hard to fathom, but this is the reality that God proclaimed to us. And yet, how can this be? Perhaps I can bring an example that can help. Matt Stutzman is a man that holds the world record for the longest and most accurate shot in archery. Out of everyone who has ever shot a bow, he is recorded to have shot farther and more accurately than them all. So where is the weakness in that? Well, Matt has no arms. He literally shoots with his feet and mouth, and he is proud of being the best despite of that. Perhaps, some say, he became the best because of that.
When we recognize the weakness that makes us often uncomfortable and expose them instead of defending them, we will then be amazed at what Abba Father will do. Don’t be afraid. Boast about them and allow yourself to accept change, as our Father’s grace is sufficient enough for us (v. 8 ). So next time when feeling insecure or vulnerable about a weakness, dare to receive the hidden blessing that is rewarded by his faithfulness.
Listen to this beautiful song by Lauren Daigle on what God says about us despite our weakness: You Say

Inheritance

 

 

 

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The Lord has laid upon my heart to write about inheritance today. When an individual receives an inheritance, they receive something that is valuable and is worthy of redemption and is meant to be used beyond the person’s death. The inheritance is of great value. Whoever has given such a gift has a means for it to stay alive and continue to be used for good purposes, despite the owner’s death. Some of you may already know where I am going with this; stay with me!

If any of you know me, you may know that I like to break things down and get into the root of things so they can be brought into the light! So often do we only scratch the surface into the spiritual realm and completely miss what God is saying or is trying to show us! Perhaps I get this from my father, haha. In any case, let’s dig right in. The Hebrew word for inheritance is nachalah (nakh-al-aw’). This word is comprised of a nun, chet, lamed, and hey. The nun represents faithfulness, according to the sages and has a pictograph of a seed. The Chet has a pictograph of a fence or wall and represents life. The lamed’s pictograph is a shepherd’s staff representing authority, and the hey has a pictograph of a man with his arms raised. When you put all of this together to form the word “inheritance”, the beauty of God’s language truly comes together. Here is what I gather: the seed of life who holds the authority yet surrenders it all no matter the cost. Who is the seed of life? Yeshua or Jesus (Gal. 3:16). Who holds the authority? Yeshua holds authority (Matt. 28:18-20). Who surrendered it all? We should all know this answer. Yeshua paid the highest price possible by giving his life so that we could live (1 John. 3:16).

This message is for everyone, but I believe that the Lord wants to specifically speak to the younger generation. I know that it is difficult to try and figure out who you are, what you are to become, who you should follow and believe. Let me tell you that during your teens and throughout your twenties is a critical time to learn your identity, heritage, and inheritance. It is so very important for you to know who you are. If you can identify yourself with confidence, know and understand the significance of the inheritance and that you have tremendous importance and value, God will move mightily, and you will be immersed in His goodness and blessing. My young friends who are reading this, please don’t lose yourself in the oasis of comfort. You need to know and begin to fully recognize your inheritance and identity today. Don’t worry about what other people define you as. Don’t measure yourself up to their standards because God’s standards and values are way higher and more valuable than you could ever imagine. Yeshua, the seed of life, the perfecter of our faith (Heb. 12:2), raised His hands before His Father and chose to give it all. He chose to surrender everything He had out of love for God’s people. He chose to set an example for the generations to come. He chose to give forth an inheritance that is invaluable. Yeshua displayed a lot by giving himself up on that cross. However, the main thing that He displayed was love. Undeniable, selfless, impeccable, perfect, pure love. Love to be passed down and set as an example to generations to come. Our job is to take those seeds (letter nun) of love that we’ve been given, share them to bring life (chet) to those around us, use the authority (lamed) that we’ve been given through Yeshua the Messiah (Mark 16:15-18, 2 Cor. 5:18-21), surrender ourselves and everything that deals with OUR flesh by raising our hands (hey) and letting GOD do the work through us. When we can do this, we will have used our inheritance how it was meant to be used. When we can truly identify through what He did for us and what He says about us in who are are … we become fully aware of how we can make a difference and use our inheritance for the glory of God. Whatever we have been blessed with is not to be used for our benefit or glory. We are to use it to sow right back into His Kingdom. He gives us many gifts and blessings; it’s how we use them that matters the most.

Give a listen to this beautiful cover by my beautiful friend Melody Joy Cloud and don’t forget your value, heritage and inheritance. You are Priceless

The Story of Balak and Balaam

In this week’s Parsha of the story of Balak and Balaam in Numbers 22-25, there are some key elements that we can learn and pull aside to ponder upon. Let me start off giving you an overview of the story. It starts off with the king of Moab, Balak, sending messengers to Balaam asking him to come and curse the people that have come out of Egypt. Balak knows these people are stronger than him and knows that whatever Balaam blesses and curses indeed comes to pass (Num. 22:6). The king of Moab offered Balaam a great reward if he would only curse the people who came out of Egypt. God came upon Balaam and told him not to go and curse the people, for they were already blessed by God. The messengers came to Balaam offering a bigger reward from the king this time, summoning for him to come with them once again. God came upon Balaam again, this time telling him to go, but only to say what He tells him to say (Num. 22:20). Balaam got up to travel back with the messengers but was too hasty (Num. 22:32). His heart was not in the right place; he cared more about receiving the reward from the king rather than obeying God and the effect of the curse he was about to place upon the people. God’s anger aroused (Num. 22:22) and He placed and angel in the road to block Balaam and his donkey’s passage. The donkey saw the angel of the Lord, causing him to go off of the road. Balaam got frustrated, therefore hitting his donkey three times before the donkey began to speak (Num. 22:28)! The Lord allowed the donkey to see the presence of the Lord and blinded Balaam from it. Balaam goes on talking to the donkey saying how he wished he had a sword to kill him. I find it humorous that Balaam is planning to curse this nation with his words, but he wishes he had a sword to kill the donkey. After three blockage attempts from the angel, God opened up Balaam’s eyes to see the angel of the Lord. He immediately fell on his face (Num. 22:32). The angel of God repeats to Balaam to go enter into this land with the king of Moab, but only speak the words that God has put into His mouth. I would hope that Balaam has a change of heart and seeks to continue this journey with obedience.

Balaam continues in Moab with Balak, speaking to the princes of Moab (Num. 23:6) and Israel (Num. 24:2) attempting to curse them but the Lord intervened causing Balaam to bless the nation, only speaking what Adonai placed inside of him. Can you imagine what it would be like to be speaking, and the words that come out of your mouth aren’t really your own words? Especially if it was in front of multitudes of people? Yikes! There were three different times that Balaam blessed the Israelites, thus creating a fury within Balak (Num. 24:10). This isn’t where the story ends, but for now this is just about where the Parsha ends.

I want to rewind a little to the incident where the angel of the Lord blocked Balaam’s path. In this incident, it was God blocking the path, not the enemy. When Balaam went to utter a curse over the people, the Lord intervened once again, blocking Balaam’s evil intentions. I believe one of the themes that we can pull from this story is that God can use anything to get His message across. In this story he used a talking donkey and an evil man. Another theme that we can attain from this story is what will we do when we are faced with those “blockages” that suddenly appear on our path? Will we get frustrated and irritated as Balaam did, acting out of anger in the situation? Or will we try to analyze the problem, perceiving it differently, praying and asking God for direction? It is so easy to take things into our own hands, handling situations and people the wrong way. It’s easy to get caught into the trap of our own fleshly emotions, becoming numb and blind (because that’s where the enemy likes you to be) to what’s really in front of you (an angel of God, perhaps?) trying to gently direct and guide you to where you need to go.

Break the strongholds in your life that are holding you back from your fullest potential. Speak the name of God out loud, the name that the wind and waves obey. Don’t be stubborn and stiff-necked, creating an atmosphere where a talking donkey has to intervene to get your attention! Leave your fear at the door, walk through in confidence, speaking the name of God everywhere you go, blessing His people, blessing His nation. This song that I have attached below has been on my heart these last couple of days. Take a moment to listen; close your eyes and apply the lyrics to your life. Picture yourself standing at the edge of the ocean waters proclaiming His name, receiving His blessing, and leaving all of YOU into the deepest of waters.

 

Speak the Name